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So, I made an awful mistake of venting to my roommates about how grossly disfigured I am, and they shrugged it off like "oh come on, you'll lose weight and it'll be fine"

Sweaty, I AM losing weight but tell me - how is that supposed to shorten my NYC sized chin and being a genetic failure? 🥴

Not even is my psychologist different. She hands me copes like candy "look, X is ugly but achieved a lot", literally all of them being the male examples.

Beckys don't have the capacity to understand how much it sucks to be disgusting, nonexistent, rejected left and right. You don't exist if you're an ugly woman.

Don't even get me started on the pErSoNaLiTy MaTtErS. Sure, people do notice your personality BUT as long as you're at least a normie. It's a cope when you're 2/10 like me imo. I could be the sweetest person in this world but it doesn't mean shit when I'm nauseatingly ugly.

I hate the fact almost all girls in their early-mid 20s I've encountered are at least average, or with one easily fixable failo. And even if I encounter some below average, she's coping really hard. Sucks to have some understanding of social dynamics of ugly women.

So, I made an awful mistake of venting to my roommates about how grossly disfigured I am, and they shrugged it off like "oh come on, you'll lose weight and it'll be fine" Sweaty, I AM losing weight but tell me - how is that supposed to shorten my NYC sized chin and being a genetic failure? 🥴 Not even is my psychologist different. She hands me copes like candy "look, X is ugly but achieved a lot", literally all of them being the male examples. Beckys don't have the capacity to understand how much it sucks to be disgusting, nonexistent, rejected left and right. You don't exist if you're an ugly woman. Don't even get me started on the pErSoNaLiTy MaTtErS. Sure, people do notice your personality BUT as long as you're at least a normie. It's a cope when you're 2/10 like me imo. I could be the sweetest person in this world but it doesn't mean shit when I'm nauseatingly ugly. I hate the fact almost all girls in their early-mid 20s I've encountered are at least average, or with one easily fixable failo. And even if I encounter some below average, she's coping really hard. Sucks to have some understanding of social dynamics of ugly women.

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"Personality" only matters for a women if they are attractive. Even if a normie has an amazing personality, they still would never be seen nearly as valuable as a Stacy with an incredibly average personality.

[–] desertbloom 3 points (+3|-0)

The halo effect combined with the tendency to suck up to those higher on the social hierarchy means that a slight head nod from stacy means they're a kind angel while you can do their homework for them and it's not even considered kindness, it's just what's expected of you like dogs are expected to guard the house or herd sheep. It's just what your kind was made to do for the superior normies, otherwise why would you even exist?

I was about to post the same thing. hahaha

I hate it when people think we just need to lose weight. Of course, being overweight affects our health and beauty, but being thin will not magically turn any woman into a "Stacy".

Personality can indeed increase SMV but men are often the ones handsomely profiting from it. A woman must be at least average to do the same.

My therapist is about 60. She fits into the beauty ideal. When young, she was likely a knockout. She is amazing, but I am suspicious she will properly not understand the lookism issue.

[–] Hotpink 7 points (+8|-1)

The weight thing is ridiculous. I've never been overweight (not skinny either, but close to the norm) and still never got any attention. And I know plenty of couples where a man is fairly good-looking and a women is overweight to obese, but has an average or pretty face.

[–] Catfishbitch 3 points (+3|-0)

The problem with "personality matters" is that people don't even give you a chance to let your personality shine if you're ugly. No one approaches/ engages in interaction with you, you're branded as creepy or weird. God forbid you don't have impeccable social skills to navigate social settings/ situations. If you're awkward and ugly it's a death sentence, if you're pretty and awkward you're cute and adorable.

[–] ToadTok 2 points (+2|-0)

Does your therapist help you navigate life? Is meeting with her essential for you? Could you reduce the amount of time you meet to save money? I ask because I used to go to therapy but stopped when I realized that pills and venting sessions would never make as big of a tangible result as plastic surgery would.

If you save money from therapy you could eventually afford a reverse genioplasty or a chin shaving procedure. It's about $7,000.

My god, you too, huh. I mean, is telling women with appearance issues that unattractive men have been successful a thing? Because I’ve had people close to me come at me with the same bullshit. How in the hell is that supposed to make us feel better? Holy shit.

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